The second question
Having already answered the first question of should, I come to the second question regarding the sharing of anomalous experiences, which is why, and the desire behind such action. At its core, motivation here rests on three drivers: 1.) need, 2.) want, and 3.) both¹. And my exploration of such motivations in this particular case is less about establishing the correct one(s)², whether by social convention, popularity, or arbitrary standard. Behind most human decision is motive, since it is the why that drives our decisions to share or withhold. It is far easier to simply react thoughtlessly to an event, however uncanny, than it is to reason one’s own reasons for acting, and questioning the underlying drivers beneath them.
The more obvious motivators are those that people will likely gravitate towards first, including fame, fortune, or some form of filling a deep sense of personal inadequacy or lack of self-esteem, which, interestingly, mirrors Jung’s warnings about ego inflation when confronting psychic³ phenomena which, no doubt, intersects spiritual experience for the mind cannot be so easily separated from the soul, or vise versa.
Indeed, losing perspective and humility after an anomalous event is a real possibility for a witness, however well they may believe themselves to be capable of fully integrated the encounter. To compound the risk, much of our media celebrates so-called heroes who succumb to ego inflation—while conveniently omitting the spiritual consequences they suffer. There may be more cautionary tales out there than I can remember off hand, but I suspect that there are far more stories about protagonists feeding the egos of audiences than otherwise⁴.
And this is not an easy road to navigate, for our current society at the time of this writing encourages and entices people to crave and seek the attention of others and great sums of wealth. But fantasies are tempting because they seemingly offer us prizes without costs, and material prizes always have a price. I myself do not pretend to be immune to these temptations and I work vigilantly to avoid and defend against them. Attention and wealth themselves are not evil, but the inflation of the ego and the corruption of the soul they can produce is.
So, what then is one to make of a good reason and motivation for sharing their anomalous experiences?
I can think of several, including 1.) helping others who may have similar experiences, 2.) helping others who have not had such experiences realize they happen with insight into what they might mean, and 3.) processing overwhelming experiences through language. We easily forget that the same langauge we use in our everyday thoughts is the same one we use to communicate with others. By using our synchronous and asynchronous communications with others, we can help ourselves better understand the meaning and implications of our experiences without becoming buried beneath the weight of their memory or dismissing them outright and unjustly.
I do not pretend that these are the only possible reasons one might decide to share their anomalous experiences openly. The real focus here is on encouraging other witnesses to be disciplined in their decision making, and to honestly consider the real reason or reasons behind their sharing and the implications to their own integrity as a result. All else is but lazy insincerity. What then does integrity demand of us? If not our own dignity, then the dignity of the experience that has forever changed us.
Notes:
I had considered coercion a possible motivator until I realized that without either need or want, coercion is powerless as a motivator.
I do not presume that motivation in this context is limited to the intrinsic. That is a decision best left to the decider.
Psyche, ψυχή: breath, life, soul.
My suggestion to the witness who truly seeks to integrate their anomalous experience puts great effort into avoiding such actions that might lead to ego inflation or any loss of humility as this may have lasting consequences far beyond the immediate sight of the individual.
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